“As I grew up, everything started getting grey and dull. I could still remember the amazing intensity of the world I'd lived in as a child, but I thought the dulling of perception was an inevitable consequence of age... I didn't understand that clarity is in the mind.”
- Keith Johnstone
The relational space between parents is where our children grow-up and experience life. We determine the color, texture and character of that space - is it safe? playful? respectful? fearful? anxiety provoking? loving? engaging?
As we enter adulthood, we look to the relational space as a template - making some adaptations along the way; sometimes to extremes (either replicating or rewriting). It has been my experience, that working on the system level allows change to occur faster, with adult family therapy having a multi-dimensional benefit - bettering the family of origin, as well as the (potential) family of choice.
Every family comes with its own unique dance, patterns and style. This ‘dance’ is the idiosyncratic interaction co-created between each family member cultivating a synergistic dynamic that is particular to your family. Each member contributes and engages in this dance. No one member bears the burden, and everyone is responsible for fostering change - starting with the parents.
Together, we will surface and unpack the difficulties you face as parents, as well as those of your children. Sometimes, one family member is especially challenging, essentially "acting out" and giving voice to the struggles the entire family is experiencing. The opportunity to meet together, lower defenses and take responsibility for our part in the dance allows for a safe, transitional space, where each person can expand and explore different ways of being in the family.
We begin with an initial 90-120 minute session (depending how many family members attend) where we get to “feel” the chemistry between us (research shows that one of the greatest factors that impacts the success of therapy is the relationship with the therapist). By the end of the session, I’ll reflect your family dynamic as I see it (strengths and challenges), and map out how I would work with you in therapy if we were to continue. I’ll also give you some initial practices and tools that you can apply immediately.
The decision to continue the process is yours and you take ownership over it.
If you choose to continue, we start working together, based on these principles:
I believe that one of the goals of therapy is for therapy to end. Therefore I aim for practical, no-nonsense, efficient therapy.
I believe that knowledge is power so I teach you effective tools, techniques and concepts that I personally tested on my own marriage. Therefore in most sessions I’ll refer you to videos from our YouTube channel so you can deepen your learning and practice at home, because therapy is what happens between sessions. I encourage you to all watch these videos so the whole family can learn a more differentiated language and grow.
I believe each family member needs to take responsibility over their personal and family’s process. Therefore, the family determines the frequency of the sessions (in consultation with me). At the end of every session, I’ll ask you when you want to meet next so you’ll be accountable for the process. Usually sessions are fortnightly.
And the rest I'll tell you when we meet...
Sessions are conducted online or in my clinic in my home in Kfar Saba Sundays through Thursdays from 9:30am till 6:15pm (IL time). Sessions run between 90 - 120 minutes.
To book your initial session contact me directly or fill in your details below.
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